Life as a New Parent

The journey of motherhood, fatherhood, and parenthood is one of the most rewarding and transformative experiences in our lives. From our own life experiences, we inevitably bring with us our own vision, expectations, and philosophies to parenting and family life. 

From the moment you first hold your baby, though, you encounter a new presence with your baby. That first embrace, first coo, first latch, and many more, are your child’s way to connect with you. Unlike other things that we may have mapped out to do in our own lives, being a new parent also means an element of surprise and loss of total control. Your little baby comes into this world with his own sleep schedule, feeding times, need to be soothed and rocked, and determination to find security and care from you.

Do you know what you are doing? Do you have what it takes to parent well? Will your newborn’s needs be met? How do I make time for my own needs? These are common questions that many parents ask themselves.

Here are a few steps to help you find your grounding in this new role and transition:

Find your village of parents 

It takes a village to raise a child. Being with a newborn 24/7 is possible but not advisable. We show up as parents best when we are well-rested and not stressed. Ask for help from your spouse/partner, friends, and family. Many who have gone through this newborn phase understand how much work it is and are more than willing to offer a hand.  

Be present with your newborn baby

The magic of parenting happens when you are present with your baby/child. Even the newest little babies have a way of grabbing your attention and heartstrings in a way that is new. Being present means being with them in space and the mind by listening, observing, and inquiring with the goal to discover who your baby/child is.

Self-Care is important as parents

For even the most efficient and multitasking parents, taking time out of the day for yourself is not selfish, but often necessary to reconnect with your own body and experience. Taking time looks different for everyone. For some it’s time to sleep and nap uninterrupted, for some it’s going for a drive, and for some, it may be grabbing coffee with friends. 

Keep an open mind and honor your truths as a new parent

You will find that everyone, whether intentionally or not, may have an opinion about how you should parent. We can find information online, from friends, from our doctors and relatives. Keep an open mind about what is said, but honor your truths. 

If you are struggling or unsure, do your research and talk with your doctor. From breastfeeding to sleep schedule to spoiling your baby, there are many opinions and ways to do things. When you are present with your baby, you are more likely to respond in a way that is best for your baby.

It may be different from what you read or are told, but keep an open mind knowing that you are doing your best.